The blog about parenting, family and leadership

How To Raise a Narcissist (humorous)

We’re raising a generation of narcissists — but we could always do with more. We know the world rotates around us, and our kids should feel the same way.

It’s working great for New Zealand so far — our kids have never been happier — or is that sadder? I forget.

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What Makes A Good Dad?

It’s not about being a masculine dad. It’s not about being the provider. It’s not about the amount of time spent with your kids or even being in the same home. Rich dad, poor dad — the outcomes are the same.

And being a good dad doesn’t necessarily end with...

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Why the anti smacking law didn't work

The Anti Smacking Law - hasn’t worked!

NZ’s youth suicide rates are out of control. Children who were just 3 when the law was introduced are killing themselves at a higher rate then any other comparable country.

Good job kiwis.

In just 10 short years there’s been a 178%...

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Good Character Isn't Taught in Schools

The CEO employs for talent but almost always fires for character. 

He can easily repeat the same mistake at home — spending a fortune on classical dance and clarinet lessons, but little on their character.

The problem is, good character is learnt — but can't be taught.

The...

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Do we see the leadership talent in our homes?

CEO’s are desperate to develop new leaders in their businesses - but go home to a houseful of them - and don’t seem to care.

We can easily get distracted by big salaries and big egos — missing the biggest move of our life — to develop the leaders in our home.

How do we do...

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Why being a soft parent isn't safe!

We all want our workplaces and homes to be safe - but we’re often too soft to make them that way.

We’re not prepared to say what needs to be said, too tired to lean into the mess, or too distracted to see our leadership missing.

But we tell ourselves it’s ok —...

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Our kids have a better relationship with Disney then they do with Dad.

Our kids have a better relationship with Disney then they do with Dad.

I wrote that few months back, and it was a bit of a wake-up-call for me.

In addition to long work hours, I noticed myself getting really annoyed with the stupid world around me and everyone’s response to covid. I...

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Respect. Men crave it, even when they don't deserve it!

 

Welcome to the leading where it matters podcast, the podcast for dads who lead. Not every leader is a dad, but all dads are called to lead. If you are a father who wants to lead well at work and home — then this is the podcast for you!

Today’s episode is called MEN CRAVE...

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Burnout or Brownout?

 

No this isn’t a racial slur - brownout is an electrical term for when energy demand is excessive.

I experienced brownout a few years back — well, my pump did. I had recently replaced it with a new one —which required more power then my system could supply.

The symptoms...

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Attachment Theory - Why dads need to know about attachment

Attachment isn't typically taught to dads — and yet if it was, I think it would change everything. Fathers, if you are at all strategic — today's post is one you'll want to think about.

First off the research shows we’re all born hardwired for attachment - some will say...

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Do our staff and employees need tougher skin — or do we not care?

 

I was talking with a mate the other day, about the need for some employees to toughen up — to get a thicker skin.

 

Some people don’t take critique or challenge well. Some have never been challenged to be more. Perhaps they didn’t have high standards as a child.

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Stinky Cultures

 

It’s amazing how negative, negative people can be. When it comes to our workplace and family cultures, it’s truely destructive.

 

It snuck up on me recently, one or two individuals quietly complaining about the world to my face, and about me (my business) to my back.

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