She seemed too young to have her own baby, being just a child herself. She spent the first few days either in her room or the spare lounge watching movies. We were not sure if it was the shock of just being up-lifted again, or to protect herself from us, the fourth foster family she’d been sent to in just a few years.
As she opened up to us we discovered a bright hopeful young lady who filled our home with joy. She was not unruly or badly behaved in any way but certainly too young to be a mother and too human to have experienced what led to her being up-lifted.
We hate that wording; “up-lifted” – a term the social work industry use to describe the moment they seperate a child from their family. It’s both the right thing to do and also completely incomprehensible.
Foster kids are great kids, a pleasure and privilage to have in your home. They are just victims of family environments that have deep-seated needs. Victims of a care system which exists for their best interests, but really, most would rather be with their parents.
That’s our aim, to have less kids in the Bay of Plenty needing foster care.
That’s the mission of The Bright Vision Charitable Trust.
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The Bright Vision Charitable Trust is a registered charitable trust
Julie and I setup the trust at the start of 2016. We spent a good portion of 2016 meeting the various social agencies and building our connections. We’ve also run a number of parenting and marriage courses and in 2017 we have a number of exciting new initiatives.
We want everything we do to be at the prevention end of things. We really do care that less kids get sent to foster care. It’s a big challenge and here is what we have planned:
Firstly: will be collaborating with a Maori Antenatal group to create and deliver a first 1,000 days program for young 15-20 year old mothers.
Secondly, We also run Building Awesome Whanau courses. This course is incredibly uplifting and encouraging, great for parents keen to be more firm but fair and fun. You can enquire about attending one of these courses, using the enquiry form in the sidebar.
We’ll also run a parenting event for parents with Toddlers, “How to raise toddlers without killing your marriage”. It’s going to be a blast.
For information on any of the above, please contact us here.